1 Eye flirting
2 Intimate conversations or flirting (Texting counts)
3 Cuddling with a purpose and/or holding hands
4 First Kiss
5 Making Out
6 Kissing places other than your partner’s mouth, but above their shoulders.
7 Body fondling (Clothing stays on)
8 Body fondling (Clothing taken off)
9 Kissing places other than your partner’s mouth, on or below their shoulders.
10 Intense make out (ie sex through clothes)
11 Manual stimulation on a female above clothing
11.25 Manual masturbation on female above clothing including an orgasm*
11.5 Manual stimulation female under clothing or without clothing
11.75 Manual masturbation on a female under clothing or without clothing including an orgasm*
12 Manual stimulation on a male above clothing
12.25 Manual masturbation on a male above clothing*
12.5 Manual stimulation on a male under clothing or without clothing
12.75 Manual masturbation on a male under clothing or without clothing including an orgasm*
13 Oral sex performed on a female
13.5 Oral sex performed on a female with an orgasm
14 Oral sex performed on a male
14.5 Oral sex performed on a male with an orgasm
15 Intercourse
*Masturbation: Excitation of one's own or another's genital organs, usually to orgasm, by manual contact or means other than sexual intercourse.
Just a thought, but this system of steps makes it seem like it's a "lesser" thing to manually stimulate a woman, considering that it is lower on the 15 steps of intimacy. For guys, getting to masturbate a girl is a huge deal! It's exciting, more so than getting a hand job from a girl, I think. So, maybe steps 11-12.75 should be squeezed together into just 3 steps (11.25, 11.5, 11.75). That's my idea.
ReplyDeleteAlso, for a girl it's super hard to have an orgasm above clothing...I don't even know how possible that is, or maybe I just suck. In any case, I think that the orgasm part should be left out, because regardless of striking that gold or not, manually stimulating a person is an exciting new step toward full intimacy.
And again, you sort of make it seem like performing oral sex on a woman is lesser than oral sex on a man. Performing oral sex on a girl is more exciting than being performed on (again, my point of veiw), but you should probably just create two steps: oral sex without orgasm, oral sex with orgasm. In this case, orgasm is important, because it seem there is little point to oral sex without orgasm.
One more thing: your final step, "intercourse," could definitely be expanded upon. A lot. Maybe even "15 Steps of Intercourse."
I have several reasons for keeping steps 11-14 the way they are, some personal and some more respectful for lack of a better term. First, you should know that I will never advise or even suggest that these steps need to be followed in order; it did not even happen exactly like this for me. Personally it went 11.25 11.75, 12, 13, 12.75. I do not think it says anything about your talent; all girls have different sensitivity levels. Also, it wasn't like it was through my jeans, it was through thinner fabric. This happened with the boy who I wrote the steps with so when he showed me step 13 he asked me specifically if I was "ready for step 13". So, I hope you can understand why I wouldn’t want to change it.
ReplyDeleteI do not believe that by putting the female step before the male step is disrespectful or makes it seem like it is less important, on the contrary, I think it shows that it can, in some cases, be more important. If you were to follow the list step by step, my female friends and I believe that those acts should be performed on a female first. I've never personally experienced 13.5, but the act of receiving oral sex was a very big deal to me. This may just be a big deal because I had never experienced it before and he had, but I felt respected when he offered to show me what 13 was before ever even mentioning step 14 (which I never did).
I do not disagree with the idea that step 15 is too condensed, but I wouldn't know ho to change it as I have never experienced the act. If you could expand on your idea I'd love to take it into consideration.
Please let me know if there are any points I didn't touch on. I love being questioned.
My only other question is, why are you so open to talking about this? Not that it's a bad thing, but most girls don't like to talk about it.
ReplyDeleteHonestly? I don't know what makes me so special. I don't think that sexual acts are wrong, naughty, or scandalous by nature. I also think that if we could be more open and honest with one another we would be a lot more content. We all have needs and desires, why, in good taste, don't we act on them?
ReplyDeleteAmerican Protestant Christian which has slowly led to an ethos of overrational-morality, something that is unlike most other regions of the world, with the exception of some Muslim nations.
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